Blythe Shelley Carver was born on July 28, 1941, to Procter and Betty Shelley in Berkeley California. 
Blythe had a happy childhood where she attended John Muir Elementary, Willard Junior High, Berkeley High School, and UC Berkeley. She grew up with her sister Leslie and her two brothers, Terry and Tim.
During that time Blythe became a member of the glee club and was a proud Camp Counselor for the Girl Scouts. She got to lead week-long hikes through the Sierra Nevadas and remained friends with many of her childhood friends.
She fell in love with Bob Carver, when they were both camp counselors at Echo Lake. He obviously felt the same for her as he asked her to marry him. They married in 1960 and were happily married for 60 years.
Blythe and Bob attended UC Berkeley, where she earned her Bachelor of Arts in Economics. She was the only girl in the Economics department that graduated Phi Beta Kappa – which was virtually unheard of at the time.
Blythe and Bob had three beautiful daughters, Karen, Cindy, and Shelley. They started out in Piedmont but wanting a more carefree way of life, moved to Sonoma. They purchased a beautiful property in Glen Ellen which is now owned by Hamel Family Wines.
They named their beautiful land the Grape Farm. They spent the next 50 years there and the Farm became the go-to place for all their kid’s friends to get together, virtually every holiday their extended family was there; weddings, memorials, etc. 
The swimming pool on the 4th of July was everyone’s favorite place to be.
Blythe’s career was varied. Believe it or not, she was both the main mechanic at our bicycle shop in Novato, known as Marin Sport Cyclery and the main caretaker of their family’s vineyards in Glen Ellen.
Blythe spent hours upon hour in their fields, hand pruning the vines in the company of her beloved goat Josephine.
Blythe loved doing art projects. She’d sew matching dresses for herself and the girls wallpapered numerous rooms. She learned to do stained glass, refinished furniture, learned to cut ceiling moldings, painted her own house in 4 different colors 3 times over and even painted her master bathroom as a scene from Pompeii. How’s that?!
Blythe was a member of Alpha Phi Panhellenic, the Vintage Festival, the Sonoma Valley Historical Society, and was even Bob’s assistant while he was the Lieutenant Governor of Kiwanis. Bob and Blythe also spent nearly 25 years as a member of the Sonoma Valley Chorale.
She loved to read, learn, and travel. Bob and Blythe hit almost 70 countries during those carefree years. More than anything she loved her book club where her “band of sisters” met almost every month for years.
Blythe was always a quiet person, but that did not mean that she wasn’t a ton of fun to hang out with. Cindy’s husband, Bob Rucker, and Blythe could often be found coming in from “somewhere” with big satisfying grins on their faces.
In 2014, Blythe was diagnosed with a neurological degenerative disease known as Supra Nuclear Palsy (PSP) which is an agonizingly slow and cruel disease that diminishes one to someone almost unrecognizable.
Blythe decided that if she was going to go, someone better learn something from it, so she enrolled in a clinical trial at UCSF. She also donated her brain to aid in finding the cure someday.
If you’re reading this, it means she’s passed and is finally free of the illness that kept her away from all of you.
Blythe leaves behind her husband Bob, the love of her life for 60 years.
Her daughters Karen Carver-Moore, Cindy Rucker, Shelley Carver, and beloved son in law, Bob Rucker. Grandchildren: Austin and Morgan Rucker, Chloe Rucker, Courtney Rucker, and Sean Moore and Great-grandson , Brooks Rucker.
Her siblings and niece Leslie Seltenrich, Tim Shelley and Terry Shelley, Jenny Green Hernandez.
Blythe also had sincere thanks and love for her caregivers: Joyce Hooper, Chantel Borno, Pat O’Sullivan, Amelia Tuinabewa, Lorie Wood, Trish Holland, Gabrielle Brown as well as numerous people from Continuum Hospice Care, but especially Gina McCaw; thank you also Dr. Guy Delorifice for doing so very much to bring light to my last days. We are profoundly grateful to all of you.
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You can mail cards to Bob Carver at 782 William Cunningham Ave, Sonoma, CA. 95476. We also have a website BlytheCarver.com if you want to see some fun pictures; you can also upload your own photos or share memories.
In Lieu of Flowers, we really would like donations in her name be made to: Brain Support Network, to PO Box 7264, Menlo Park, California 94026, USA.
And then call your mother if you are lucky enough to still have her.